In My Humble Opinion...

  • Style Guide for Women: Everything You Need To Know In Order to Dress Yourself

    Jun 27 If Melania Trump’s Jacketgate reminded us of anything, it’s that there is a fair amount of confusion over what we should and shouldn’t be wearing at any given moment. From the type of event, to the hour of day, to the time of year, and even the season in life, confusion abounds when it comes to how we should dress ourselves. [read more]
  • New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern: Trail Blazer, Leave Taker

    Jun 21 I am not criticizing women who choose to take ridiculously short maternity leaves or even skip them altogether. It’s their right to do so. But while they shouldn’t be criticized for this decision, they shouldn’t be commended for it, either. By continuing to follow the workaholic model of success, they are neither helping to advance the interests of women in the workplace generally or in leadership specifically. [read more]
  • PSA for Celebrity Moms: Your Daughters Aren’t Your Besties

    Jun 12 While it’s perfectly cool to have a close relationship with your daughter, it’s super important for you to not lose sight of the fact that your relationship is that of parent and child, not girlfriend to girlfriend. If you don’t keep clear on that, it’s going to be really hard for you to be the kind of mom your daughter needs and deserves. [read more]
  • Why I’m Rooting for Meghan Markle (And Hope She doesn’t End Up In the Sunken Place)

    May 27 From time immemorial, women have been told that to be “worthy,” we have to be subservient and “pure.” And we have also been told that two important markers of purity are pale skin and virginity. By marrying into the family that is the standard bearer for all things white and uptight, Meghan has dealt those damaging messages a colossal blow. [read more]
  • An Exclusive Interview with God on the Topic of Divorce!

    Sep 08 2016 Luckily for me, God has been pretty forthright with me about his feelings on divorce. And because I'm a giver, I have taken the time to distill all of God's wisdom on the topic into this blog post. I'm pretty sure that makes this the third most important writing of all time. The list goes like this: 1. The Holy Bible, by God. 2. The Art of the Deal, by Donald J. Trump. 3. This blog post, by yours truly. And not to brag or anything, but out of those three, I'm the only one who didn't need the hel [read more]
  • An Open Letter from a Divorce Lawyer to America: Think Hard Before Saying "I Do" to a Narcissist this November

    Aug 07 2016 You have to run his promises through the narcissist decoder—and the narcissist decoder works a lot like the fortune cookie game, only instead of putting “in bed” on the end of every fortune, you put “for me” on the end of every promise. “Our life together is going to be great!” becomes “Our life together is going to be great for me!” “Make America great again,” means “Make America great again for me.” [read more]
  • Adulting 101: Divorce Edition

    May 29 2016 Getting a divorce requires a lot of adulting. (And yes, "adulting" is now a verb.) The timing on that couldn’t be worse, because when you’re getting a divorce, adulting is extremely challenging. [read more]
  • MediYAYtion: Why Your Upcoming Divorce Mediation is a Good Thing (And Instructions on How to Rock It)

    May 15 2016 If you describe yourself as a reasonable person, this is exactly the forum for you to walk that talk. There's a difference between holding firm on things that you feel strongly about and being unreasonably stubborn. Mediation is not the time or place for hardball or sucker punches. Compromise is the name of the game. [read more]
  • Why Reasonable Rebecca Makes for a Catastrophe of a Client

    May 01 2016 The minute you need to convince someone else of your reasonableness in order to feel good about yourself, you’ve stopped being Reasonable Rebecca and you’ve morphed into Codependent Connie. It should be enough that you are sure of the reasonableness of your positions. And if it isn’t, you need to work on changing your mind, not Jerky Jarod's. [read more]
  • Take Off the Baby Sling and Put on Your Thinking Cap! (Advice for the Stay-at-Home Parent Whose Marriage is on the Rocks)

    Mar 31 2016 Being a stay at home parent is a phenomenal gift to give one’s children. And it can be incredibly rewarding for the parent who stays at home, too. But that fact that it is rewarding doesn’t mean it’s not a sacrifice that can put you at a disadvantage. There are steps you can take to shore up your position—and that’s good for everyone in your family. [read more]