Articles on Parenting (Post-Divorce)

Valentine's Day Advice for Dealing with Your Ex: Handle with 'Don't Care'  
Want to give your ex a gift for Valentine's Day? Didn't think so. But you should and here's why: If you give your ex the gift that I'm about to recommend, you will get a HUGE gift in return. Before I tell you what you'll get, let me explain what you should give: a heaping helping of Don't Care.

Want to Apologize to Your Kids for Your Divorce? Here's How NOT to Screw it Up.  
Maybe you're the one who caused the divorce by having an affair. Or maybe you didn't want the divorce at all, but there were a few (or 20) things you wish you hadn't said or done during the whole ordeal, and those things had an impact on your kids. If you want to apologize, fine. But read this first to make sure your motives are pure and your methods don't end up adding insult to injury.

How NOT To Be The Biggest Loser:  Games Divorced Parents Should NEVER Play With Their Kids
The title of most popular parent comes at a steep price: It costs at least some (and quite possibly all) of your parental authority. Parenting requires telling your kids things they don't want to hear sometimes -- like no. And parents who want to be popular are reluctant to do that because it causes them to lose popularity points with their kids -- and that's what these parents value the most.

Surviving Your First Holiday Season Post-Divorce
Looking for tips on how to get through your first set of holidays after your divorce?  Check out my interview with Jennifer Borget of Time Warner Cable News!

To Tell or Not to Tell:  How to Take the High Road With Your Kids When Your Ex Had an Affair
People always talk about wanting to take the high road when it comes to divorce -- especially in situations involving their kids. When it comes to your kids, taking the high road requires putting their best interests first. But in this situation, it can be hard to tell what that means, exactly.

Co-parenting Tip of the Day:  Don't Give Spineless Support
The plan you just crafted is neither original nor smart. In fact, this approach is so common that it already has its own entry in the Lexicon of Divorced Co-parenting. You'll find it under "spineless support." Spineless support is when a parent deliberately leaves the tough decisions and unpopular positions to his ex, so that he can be more popular with his kid by comparison.

Who's Not Honoring Me Now?  How Your Narcissistic Ex Really Feals About Child Support.  
If you have kids with a narcissist, there's one important thing you need to know about the post-divorce phase: Contributing economically to raising your children is going to chafe against his narcissistic tendencies, which means getting your ex to meet his obligations can be tricky business.

'Tis the Season to Take Deep Breaths
The point of going over his naughty list isn't to harsh your Christmas high: It's to prevent your Christmas plans from getting dashed by behavior that is as old as Father Christmas himself.

O, Come All Ye Newly Single Parents: How To Get Through The Holidays Without Singing The Blues
October is well underway. For many, that means the scary season has officially begun. I'm not referring to kids who can't wait for Halloween with all of its spooky excitement. I'm talking about newly separated grown-ups who dread facing their first set of holidays as a single parent.

Attention, Guilt-Ridden Divorce Parents! Five Gifts To Give Your Kid After Your Divorce
Admit it. You feel guilty about your divorce. So guilty, in fact, that you want to buy your kids presents to try to make it up to them. Something like a new puppy, because a little furry bundle of love will make them feel better.

Mark Your Calendars! Sunday, June 24th Is Boydad Day!
Three years ago my daughter Hannah, then eight, went through a fiction writing phase. Clint researched various creative writing summer camps and brought home all the information for her.

How to Be a Smarter Mom, Not a Martyr Mom

So, you got a divorce and now you have a raging case of parental guilt. You want to make up for the hell your kids have endured, but you're smart enough to know that buying them things is not the right way to go about it.